It is certainly true what you say. This is a niche game and it is very difficult.
The best way to have a chance of falling in love is by asking and receiving help. The game has it's faults but once hooked has a retention rate that is unbelievable. Been stuck here for 4.5 years.
Select the text channel and custom put in my name badger77 see if I am on. Will always help. Note this week is live beta test so action may be lower and less organised but I hope you get a true feel for the game. It's not for everyone but does have it's unique and fantastic points.
Badger, thank you for extending your hand to us instead of trying to bite ours as others have in previous comments. I will be sure to look you up during our trial so that you may show me "the ropes".